Unfortunately, in modern times, many marriages end in divorce or separation. This stat goes even higher when you throw in an autistic child. No matter how loving and understanding you can be to your child, the truth is that autism is very difficult to deal with and pressure on marriage is not uncommon. By trying to stay positive about your situation and working to make your marriage healthy, you and your spouse can avoid marital problems and hopefully survive the difficult times of raising an autistic child.
Why did you marry your husband or wife? By asking yourself this question often, you can focus on the good things in your marriage. Raising a child with autism is stressful, and when you're stressed, you tend to lash out at the other person for the slightest misstep. Instead of focusing on these bad qualities, spend some time enjoying each other like you did at the beginning of the relationship. This may include spending some time apart from your children. When you find out your child is autistic, it's helpful to make sure you and your spouse aren't the only two people your child will interact with. A grandparent, aunt or uncle, older sibling or nanny are good people who should have the most intimate relationship in your child's life. This way alone time with your partner is possible.
Work with your partner to help your child instead of fighting each other. It is very likely that you will have different ideas about what to do in certain situations, so be prepared to compromise and always seek professional advice before making any medical decisions for your child. When working together, remember that you are giving your child the best opportunities. Try to set aside time each week to spend together as a family, especially if one parent or the other is the primary caregiver.
Finally, seek help when you need it. Part of any successful marriage is spending some time apart to focus on individual needs, and having an autistic child is no different. However, if you find that you and your spouse are not happy unless you are spending time alone, it is time to reassess the situation. A family or marriage counselor can help you and your spouse get back on the path to a happy life together. Meeting other couples raising autistic children could also be beneficial. You are not alone and it is never easy. By working hard to make your marriage happy even when you are under the stress of raising an autistic child, you and your spouse can ensure that your marriage does not end in a messy divorce.