A human being is often a distracted soul when he starts perceiving things through the brain rather than the heart. As I observe people around me, I notice that they feel pleased when appreciated and hurt when criticized, especially when they are confronted with reality. However, this tendency is not merely individual; it is also shaped by social and psychological structures in which mentality is formed. As Joel Osteen says, “We go where we are celebrated, not where we are tolerated.” Ostensibly, people prefer environments where they are appreciated rather than where they are merely tolerated. It is part of human nature that self-interest influences our attachments and decisions, often regardless of the cost.
I have found myself in a world full of flattery and insincerity. The human mind, when driven by appreciation, tends to seek pleasure and withdraw from places where criticism becomes intolerable. However, human behavior isn't one-
dimensional; it is shaped by multiple factors and psychological needs.
According to Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs, humans require esteem and belongingness, which are fulfilled through respect, recognition, and self-worth. Similarly, Self-Determination Theory explains that human motivation is based on three core needs: competence, autonomy, and relatedness. Appreciation strengthens these needs and prevents individuals from giving up on their goals. As William James rightly said, “The deepest principle in human nature is the craving to be appreciated.” This shows that appreciation is not a luxury but a psychological necessity. Positive reinforcement plays a vital role in motivating individuals, increasing engagement, and improving performance.
However, in a world where happiness is often dependent on unreliable external validation, contradictions arise. When sadness occurs or failure is experienced without appreciation, people often feel demotivated and discouraged. I do not reject these realities, but I also acknowledge that positive reinforcement has a strong role in uplifting human potential. To conclude, I strongly believe that where appreciation exists, talent survives; where it is absent, it fades away like wind. Ultimately, the human brain tends to move toward environments where it feels valued and recognized.
As Gerard C. Eakedale said, “Recognition is the greatest motivator.” |