“ Do not kill your children with your own hands.”
Engr! Shahid Siddique Khanzada
The fact is that most of the children of today are naturally very smart, responsible and talented. Therefore, trying to achieve high results by putting them in a furnace of unnecessary restraint and mental and emotional pressure is the biggest mistake of parents. It is possible that these children, galloping like racehorses, may win their parents some medals of success in the field of education and sports, but in the practical field of life, they often lose their self, their identity and their purpose in life. “High grades are a punishment, to achieve which most parents keep themselves and their children in constant torment. “Apparently, this logic seems strange, however, if we consider it, the Qibla and Kaaba of the current education system are exams and miraj, obtaining marks and grades. After all, it is the ladder of shine and percentage of A and A+ grades that takes the new generation from a good school to the heights of a better college, the best university, the desired job, business and an enviable standard of living. Most parents assume that if you have to make a small sacrifice of your precious childhood, boyhood, youth and idle hobbies and tendencies, then the deal is not so bad. The traditional way of education, be it the public Matriculation and Inter-System system or the imported Cambridge (O and A Level) system, is completely contrary to the natural intelligence and creative abilities of children. On top of this, the pressure of exams and the fear of failure paralyzes the ability of most children to think, understand and learn. Children who excel in the examination field are not necessarily destined for extraordinary success in the practical field. The new economic system demands confident team workers and creative thinkers who have the ability to make difficult and quick decisions and the courage to take losses. Our outdated education system is still busy producing robots whose primary goal in life is to get a white-collar job, a CEO position in a multinational company, and finally, a job abroad and citizenship, so that the future of our future generations can be secured in a foreign land. We may get all the material comforts of life, but we may not be able to have true happiness, peace of mind, sincere friendships, and the company of our loved ones. Because in the blind race of economic lust, it is common practice to trample on those who follow us. It is a symptom of the current competitive era that the online network of children and youth is very large, but in real life they neither come to build relationships nor make friends. Often, during exam days, talented students look like they are being bullied by their parents. In such a situation, I have heard many children say, "Mom, speak quickly, I don't have time." "Dad, if you want to talk for a long time, send me a message, I will see you later." It is getting late for coaching. If you want to see your children as active and successful people, give them unconditional respect, love and attention and have complete faith in their own selves. Even in the worst of cases, the positive thinking and balanced reaction of parents can save the child from disappointment and misguidance. If the grades are bad, the child himself is the most patient among them, in such a situation, the scolding, beating and emotional reactions of the parents break him. As a result, such children often grow up with emotional, irritable and unstable personalities who have no confidence in themselves or in the world. Students' memory and understanding of examination techniques. This cannot test the ability of an individual, nor his knowledge and passion, so parents should not make it a matter of life and death. Just for the sake of satisfying their own ego, it is foolish to compare one child with any other child. Every child has unique talents in himself. Let him flourish according to his own pace and inclination, do not burden him with your unfulfilled desires and longings. Instead of becoming a strong tree, he may grow into a hollow being under the suffocation of your fear and hope, which neither bears fruit nor flowers nor shade, but remains merely fuel for the economic bonfire. Often, in the race for first position, children sometimes lag far behind, while many children even put their lives at stake. Most children who are trained by their parents to get more marks and only win. When those children whose defeats and failures are not accepted reach the higher classes, their psychological condition becomes extremely complicated. The pressure put on children to get more marks or get first position leads to irritability and stubbornness in their nature. |