Preface
Where world has grown so fast, there are still people to love themselves n not
compromising their ill habbits, they launch mysterious wave for hurting people,
discouraging them and putting them down in their very own thoughts. This article
is in response to many behaviors that I happened to observe during my own
breaths. In this article, topics like how to tell something to someone, how to
listen, why to listen and what is called imaginations and re creations. These
pre-named elements are basic tools to carry out best conversation n making best
teams n letting best ideas to develop in world of curiosity n fast car race and
finally developing great sense of RESPECT.
!!Greetings!!
People n their brains are having amazing stories to tell you, they’re just too
curious to tell, how n what they know or may they feel. It may be about topic of
Visits, tours, chit chats about friends, picnic with families, Re-created Ideas,
imaginations, love n affection, experiences, doubts, finance & market high
rising prices, technology or researches and I wonder how many there would be,
but I really have big question mark in my mind, who is going to listen Me?
Lets begin glimpse with a baby, who pucks milk, cries like “ohaan oohaan”, has
got natural reflexes, who doesn’t know how to talk, how to do many things which
are supposedly to be done by a common human, who holds finger of his mom with
complete contentment, who goes market n use only finger for demanding his
desires, who fails to control his desires n his excitements n non-chalant
behavior bring new ideas in form of note book drawings, making of building with
toy of small building blocks, or may be in form of his crawling direction n
patterns. He always get love of his mother, remains in shadows of complete
secured hands, whose innocence is safeguarded n well respected, whose even small
smile is encouraged, who is trusted n hoped to bring amazing changes, who is
supposed to be part of FAMILY TEAM, and finally he is, who has to be the one to
learn n make his own world of latter life and when he grows up, he boost his
family team, favor it in thick n thin times, try to keep away any harm coming to
it, making family a perfect example, these above discussed basic elements in
this paragraph, “TRUST, HONESTY, CARE, ENCOURAGEMENT, EMPATHY n SYMPATHY” are so
important for respect and betterment.
Most of people don’t want to listen, they just keep speaking n usually it hurts
other as conversation doesn’t go in equilibrium and speaker only enjoys, where
listener feels it annoying n’ relations get started to receive rusting
properties. Well, there are different sort of people, some wants to listen, some
wants to speak, lastly some people wants to speak n listen both. But let’s
think, if there are two people who love speaking only n they’re to be together,
how would it work? It would never work any way if they just go for what they
desire.
What makes you feel comfortable in your family? What doesn’t let you feel alone
when you get trouble? It’s just trust n love with your family n friends. These
two elements are so essential for any relation. When you talk to your family,
they encourage your right thoughts while helping you with wrong thoughts instead
taunting on you. They feel what you feel. They become sad when you are sad and
they’re happy when you are happy and this makes Family “A TEAM”. And Family Team
is only best n most successful Team on Earth; Reason is Trust, love, Respect to
each other’s thoughts n ideas and care.
We have to see what team is, and where key of its success lies. Key lies in
Listening. Listening shows Respect n perfect empathy for others. Especially in
Team, when everyone has to work together, for a cause, they’ve to be like one
fist, in which all fingers share common palm or like stars, in which they’ve to
share single sky. This is not easy but still easy to be done as key lies in
listening property. Everyone is sent on earth with special ideas n creativity
but most people discourage n all special ideas die before they come out of their
mouth. This is exactly what doesn’t happen in Team, in team everyone listens,
respects, speaks, shares, no one tries to be superior, and they try to run
together with no one in front or behind but everyone along same line. But what
if there’s a team and leader of that team wants to impose rules and doesn’t want
to listen any one, members of team would feel it highly disrespecting and
instead of inventing new ideas in positive aspect, members would think of leader
in negative aspect and sense of beauty n peace fades away with no sign of TEAM
any more.
Why should we listen to others? Even when we don’t want to? For this, you got to
know why most of leaders of the world have had best capability of listening to
others. Actually Listening brings a lot of information, understanding, knowledge
about any subject and helps you a lot in gaining what you miss and most
important thing; it lets you have enough time to put on observation while
listening n gaining experiences of others. Most of leaders of the world, listen
others just because they observe n try to understand where problem lies. If you
speak only, you’d miss these observations n gain none but illusion of happiness.
But still, if you don’t want to become leader, why should you listen then?
Actually listening carries big sense of respecting. If you listen someone, it
would build natural castle of Respect in heart of speaker, shinning stars in
their minds about you and they would try to be your friend n help you always
while thinking you a great personality keeping person n one of a kind person.
A listening heart is the beginning of all knowledge
Some people speak wrong, why should we listen them, why should we let them end
when it causes us to get angry, why? Answer is so simple. In Medical world, I’ve
learnt one thing, n the best thing I must say, that is “Respect your patients
and do listen, what they’ve to say”
I know, meanings of above sentence are in different sense, but let me get you in
the imaginary sense of this line, where explanation of this line is like,
“Everyone in this world is your patient, and you got to listen what they say”.
You’ve to remember or imagine or just suppose that you’re doctor, and doctors
should be polite, even in psychiatric department, doctors have to be polite with
them, no matter how harsh patient goes, but notice, what they get in the end,
“BIG CHEERFUL SUCCESS”. This is the Policy, I used n use, and I know that
everyone is my patient and I don’t have to be angry or feel irritated from
someone who’s patient or suffering, instead I’d rather have to listen them, and
this how it won’t trouble me since I’ve gotten positive perspective to perceive
someone’s annoying thoughts, plus it would make speaker comfortable with you all
the time without any hesitation. And in the END, you’ll earn Respect, and if you
practice it with everyone, there wouldn’t be any single person on earth to hate
you because you’ve such kind quality of giving respect by listening to them. If
someone abuses you or speak absurd stuff, don’t get hyper, again think him as
your patient, and try to find out what is trouble and help him.
While I’ve spoken a lot about listening, now I should turn to speakers. Good
speaker should wait for his turn, Good speaker as always said, should be good
listener as well because this makes perfect combination. Most people say, be
what you are and I do agree with them, but saying what you’re having in your
mind, could end up troubling you a lot. Good Speaker should check listener face,
attitude, smile, mood and topic of interest before speaking. Only talking about
your own interests come in Misuse of speaking, and this is where usually
listener starts feeling annoying, n disrespect you. It’s just like
GIVE RESPECT AND BE RESPECTED
We have to choose varieties of word before speaking, we have to see who is
listener, we’ve to speak according to their environment n their backgrounds,
this nowhere means that you should speak stupid when you’re in company of them,
or to lower yourself, it just means to choose the best to make listener
comfortable. Best speaker creates best comfortable zone, where he looks into
eyes during conversation, sometimes may break it, he speaks with smile on face,
may be little one at least, with thoughts that listener is his childhood friend
(may be you’re speaking to stranger, but this thoughts bring exciting energy
within you, and that too natural), and lastly he cares what listener cares. This
is when, person has to make good relation and maintain good conversation, but if
there’re conflicting ideas, then a GOOD speaker waits for time n space to
continue with it. Good speaker should not let his tongue flow, instead his words
should be quite fabricated n well tested according to situations, most of time
it comes from experience, and other times it’s natural. Speaker should not
impose his words, or criticize frequently, instead he should be finding best
solution to inform person about his mistakes, may be via internet or by
discussing with friends or someone else without mentioning name.
Why we are lacking behind because we have good innovations like, we’ve texting
services, email services, voice calls, video calls, private conferences, and
many ways to communicate each other but we don’t make most of them. If we find
someone so ODD while speaking or if we find mistakes, we shouldn’t criticize on
face, because it can go harsh and it does for most of people. The best thing
would be to send email or text and if person starts arguing on email or text, do
not reply once you’re aware that you’ve defined enough.
Things that person notices in you, how precise, honest and good secret keeper
you’re and most of all, how best you guide them truly while you’re nice to them
during kind conversations. If you try to make someone feel as if you’re playing
chess with them, it may cause them to think you smarter, but probably you won’t
find great help from them at times of need because this behavior keeps person
under doubts and in un-comfortable zone.
Now lets move to the concept that most of people do know but they don’t fuss
over. Most people don’t realize what they’re doing while they are anger, and
they put their anger on wrong person (guilt free person), how could anyone then
love to listen those kinds of people? It would probably end days of respect. So
be in your senses when you’re angry.
The true test of character is not how much we know how to do, but how we behave
when we don't know what to do –
Now let me introduce some beautiful elements. Re-Creation and Imaginations are
two different terms, usually used synonymously. Re creation refers to what
you’ve seen n experienced and you’re creating same scenario of past in your mind
and playing with that while imagination refers to amazingly world of unlimited
thoughts, where nothing remain impossible. Positive imaginations, but perhaps
impossible imaginations would puff amazing excitement in your voice n make your
speech wonderfully amazing, like sometimes my friend avoids some negative aspect
of his thoughts, while enjoying totally different imaginary world, giving him
wonderful energy during his talks. Re creation while carries its own importance
as it gives experience to learn, stay n live peacefully.
If you want to be respected, just adjust your feelings according to person, if
person is excited, you should show excitement, if person is sad, you shouldn’t
show sadness, but you should try to formulate imaginary stories or recreated
stories to give moral support and likewise. In short, we’ve to encourage, n
encouragement is most positive aspect of behavior.
Lastly, Good speaker should keep good listening power n ability to bear harshest
comments and I’ve just mentioned that how to manage comments n words while
thinking of patients.
For good relation n being respected, new ideas and inventions n innovative
thoughts, we need to be good listener and if we get chance, we should be good
speaker then. There are two ways to be good listener, either build great
patience, or think everyone as your patient or client plus great power to
connect you listened words with your imaginations. While for being good speaker,
you have got to watch mood, speed, voice volume, excitement, lips shape, eyes
folding extent and you’ve got to speak accordingly. And these are basic things
for being respected. Think positive.
Name : Scientist Shehroz
Religion : Islam
Country : Pakistan
Aim : Peace n Truth
I paint objects as I think them, not as I see them.
Contact : [email protected]
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