Wise men long ago said “Nobody
can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new
ending.” Nothing could be closer to the truth. But before you can begin this
process of transformation you have to stop doing the things that have been
holding you back.
Here are 10 ideas( as a part 1) to get you started:
1. Stop spending time with the wrong people. – Life is too short to spend time
with people who suck the happiness out of you. If someone wants you in their
life, they’ll make room for you. You shouldn’t have to fight for a spot. Never,
ever insist yourself to someone who continuously overlooks your worth. And
remember, it’s not the people that stand by your side when you’re at your best,
but the ones who stand beside you when you’re at your worst that are your true
friends.
2. Stop running from your problems. – Face them head on. No, it won’t be easy.
There is no person in the world capable of flawlessly handling every punch
thrown at them. We aren’t supposed to be able to instantly solve problems.
That’s not how we’re made. In fact, we’re made to get upset, sad, hurt, stumble
and fall. Because that’s the whole purpose of living – to face problems, learn,
adapt, and solve them over the course of time. This is what ultimately molds us
into the person we become.
3. Stop lying to yourself. – You can lie to anyone else in the world, but you
can’t lie to yourself. Our lives improve only when we take chances, and the
first and most difficult chance we can take is to be honest with ourselves. Read
The Road Less Traveled .
4. Stop putting your own needs on the back burner. – The most painful thing is
losing yourself in the process of loving someone too much, and forgetting that
you are special too. Yes, help others; but help yourself too. If there was ever
a moment to follow your passion and do something that matters to you, that
moment is now.
5. Stop trying to be someone you’re not. – One of the greatest challenges in
life is being yourself in a world that’s trying to make you like everyone else.
Someone will always be prettier, someone will always be smarter, someone will
always be younger, but they will never be you. Don’t change so people will like
you. Be yourself and the right people will love the real you.
6. Stop trying to hold onto the past. – You can’t start the next chapter of your
life if you keep re-reading your last one.
7. Stop being scared to make a mistake. – Doing something and getting it wrong
is at least ten times more productive than doing nothing. Every success has a
trail of failures behind it, and every failure is leading towards success. You
end up regretting the things you did NOT do far more than the things you did.
8. Stop berating yourself for old mistakes. – We may love the wrong person and
cry about the wrong things, but no matter how things go wrong, one thing is for
sure, mistakes help us find the person and things that are right for us. We all
make mistakes, have struggles, and even regret things in our past. But you are
not your mistakes, you are not your struggles, and you are here NOW with the
power to shape your day and your future. Every single thing that has ever
happened in your life is preparing you for a moment that is yet to come.
9. Stop trying to buy happiness. – Many of the things we desire are expensive.
But the truth is, the things that really satisfy us are totally free – love,
laughter and working on our passions.
10. Stop exclusively looking to others for happiness. – If you’re not happy with
who you are on the inside, you won’t be happy in a long-term relationship with
anyone else either. You have to create stability in your own life first before
you can share it with someone.