When God created humans He
blessed every person with attributes which became part of his our personality
and we need to recognize and polish them in the best way we can in order not to
waste God’s blessings upon us.
A survey shows that 95% of people around the world underestimate themselves
whereas self esteem means being happy with who you are, the way you are. Self
esteem is an important factor in some body’s success as it enlightens the
persons’ abilities and makes him feel growing a head of its competitors. This
feel of real growth and advancement in this era of competition gives the person
the happiness and motivation to pluck the stars in the sky. On the other hand
people with low self esteem feel their pace far slower than the pace of the
world and feel as they are shunted ones by the society. They feel that they have
nothing to offer the world and the world does not have anything to offer them!
They do have desires to fulfill, they do want to grow but they just want it,
don’t try their luck and lack passion and practical approach to gain things for
themselves. They wait for some divine power to bestow upon them everything they
need. They feel as hesited in accepting challenge and facing risks as if with
their single step they will find themselves in abyss.
Low esteem people face difficulties in every walk of life. But to pluck the
stars and to get success, one has to be very strong and practical.
Here are some causes of low self esteem and ways to over come them.
OTHERS ATTITUDE:
To be shouted at, ridiculed or told off is very demoralizing. People may
criticize and discourage you, but do not tolerate all the harassment and give
them strong response, though it’s best to ignore them. Make yourself confident
and be determined at your task and let others know that you are not afraid of
them and that you have faith in your capabilities.
BEING LESS EXPRESSIVE:
Develop the habit of expressing your ideas and emotions. Do not underestimate
your ideas and discuss them with your friends and family and try to polish your
ideas, try to seek light from others experience of life, learn from others
knowledge and ideas and try to begin your knowledge from where others knowledge
ends. It will develop in you the confidence of being more informative.
BEING COMPARED WITH OTHERS:
This is one of the most pinching ways to damage some one’s self esteem. Usually
it starts from your family, your parents compare you with your siblings and with
your successful cousins in the family and friends compare you with high scoring
students in your class then being dishearten you find no place on the earth to
hide yourself. But ones again suggestion is there not to loose the heart and try
your best to prove your capabilities.
HIGH HOPES:
High hopes within you keep you motivated but high hopes of others associated
with you can be problematic. So, if your parents expect too much, make sure you
tell them that you are giving things your best shot. In this way they will
understand if you do not come up to the mark.
Faisal gave up studies altogether when he failed to get admission in AQMC (
Allama Iqbal Medical College ). The weird part is that he did not even try to
get admission in any other college or medical university, nor did he go for
another qualification_ as the adage goes:
“ Opportunity will drop into your lap if you place your lap where opportunity
Drops”
Person should fight for his dreams to come true.
BEING PESSIMIST:
It acts as a poison for confidence. Never let your self get pessimist because
like this you will find yourself in position of doing nothing at all. Hard time
never lasts long. Be optimistic in every situation because
Ever cloud has a silver lining
THE MEDIA:
Many teens today are sufferings from anorexia, most of them being girls of
course. Every one is unhappy with the way they look and want to have thinner,
prettier bodies. But come on, it is not necessary to match your self with any
model or actress, infact it does not matter at all. What matters is to fall at
certain high merit. As there is a beautiful saying:
Charm strikes a sight but merit wins the soul
It’s very important to realize what your potentials are, and appreciating your
capabilities. If you do something good, don’t say anyone could do those, instead
be proud that YOU did that thing. When you start believing you deserve best, you
will find that you are getting it.
High self-esteem will definitely change your life and your way of viewing
things.