Nowadays ,every next person says that my
child is illmannered, obdurate, stubborn..nonflexible nature,never mix with
their buddies,bla bla bla..
we complain alot instead of talk about...
and obviously im not going to talk that what is going on ,here im talking about
what is the reason behind it? & ofcourse we will get the reasonable solution...
we always trying to change the world & we dont know what is going on in our
beloved home..
why our children "mis behave"????
lets start ,from the begining..
When our baby come to the world..we say alot of ALHAMDULILLAH..we do all effort
to give him comfort,we all take the care about his little things that he need,we
observe his pretty acts & enjoy but as you see your child is growing up and
getting your words you just think your child doesnt need you anymore.....
your faults start from here,your child has a small mind ,he doesnt understand
quickly what you want to say..he thinks that mamma or papa are going far from
me..they dont love me anymore? ,dont care me,?what is my fault?the child just
need your time is that his fault?
when he calls you,when he shows his activitis to you,you scold him badly instead
of listen him ...you should appriciate him what he did..but you give him the
video games & tabs & different games to do keeps him busy & stay out from you?
for the specific time he pretend to fix their mind in games but,he is prepare to
understand that my parents never give me time,now i will do different things to
gain their attention,
1.i will jump from sofa
2.i will tear all the pages in papa's file
3.i will colour my wall with different pencils?
such types of activities comes in his mind..but the poor baby invites for face
the different types of music & slaps...
the confidence of boy has gone..he wont trust anybody...
now he grow more to teen age & never share his feelings to anyone..and everytime
he do misbehave desperately...and always be in angry mood..
parents says every desires we fulfil ,all the things we provide,after all these
things our boy is angry with us..dont know why?
when you dont have time for your child..you are doing different activities..you
have arranged the maid for taking care of your child..if you dont give attention
,affection,care to your child ,he obviously find these things out of the home..
& no one takes the guarantee that outside your home he will be safe or not ,may
be he will be habbitual of some kind of drugs..(na'auzubillah)or the friends who
shows love but drag to the negative habbits..& he will definately do because the
friends give him "love" not you..and you lose your child..but
"every lock has any key..."
as a muslim we are very lucky to have our book Qura'an majeed..in which we have
all the solution about isalmic & world problems..ALHAMDULILLAH..
we have to give time our child , read and make them understand what is ALLAH
said in quraan about the life we are spending,obeying & disobeying the parents
..but first you should read and understand and make your home according to
Quraan..& the very main ibadah is NAMAZ which protects you 100 more bad habbits
and ofcourse closer to ALLAH( SWT)..
and please do soft speak to your child and try to understand what he
want...because you are his world,and you are doing the very first mistake to
keep him far from you..
may ALLAH bless all children..
here is dua'a for make our child humble & obidient
"wa aslih li fi dhurriyyati inni tubtu ilaika wa inni minal muslimeen.."
"And o (ALLAH),be gracious towards me in the matter of my off-spring.
And surely, i have returned to You in repentance,and surely,im of those who
surrender(to You)."
(suarh Al-Ahqaf 15)