Improve your Self Confidence
(Zulfiqar Ali Bukhari, Islamabad)
If we are committed to have a healthy self
confidence there are many things you can do every day to boost your self
confidence, each small steps that will help you to reach your goal. The good
news is that self-esteem is not fixed and can be improved, try some of the steps
below to boost your confidence and self-esteem.
1) Identify your successes. Everyone is good at something, so discover the
things at which you excel, then focus on your talents. Give yourself permission
to take pride in them. Give yourself credit for your successes. Inferiority is a
state of mind in which you've declared yourself a victim. Do not allow yourself
to be victimized.
2) Look in the mirror and smile. Studies surrounding what's called the "facial
feedback theory" suggest that the expressions on your face can actually
encourage your brain to register certain emotions. So by looking in the mirror
and smiling every day, you might feel happier with yourself and more confident
in the long run.
3) Exercise and eat healthy. Exercise raises adrenaline and makes one feel
happier and healthier. It is certainly an easy and effective way to boost your
self-confidence.
4) Turn feelings of envy or jealousy into a desire to achieve. Stop wanting what
others have just because they have it; seek things simply because you want them,
whether anybody else has them or not.
5) When you're feeling superbly insecure, write down a list of things that are
good about you. Then read the list back. You'd be surprised at what you can come
up with.
6) Don't be afraid to push yourself a bit - a little bit of pressure can
actually show just how good you are!
7) You can try taking a martial arts or fitness class/course (or both). This
will help build confidence and strength.
8) Invest in some new clothing and donate some of your old clothing to send a
message to yourself that you both look sharp and feel sharp.
9) Try to make yourself talk positively at all times. When you hear yourself
saying you can't do something, stop and say you can. Unless you try, you will
never know whether you are able to or not.
10) Don't get wrapped up in your mistakes and dwell on bad points; they can
contrast your good points or even give you something to improve. There's no
feeling like being good at something you were really bad at.
11) Don't confuse what you have with who you are. People degrade their self
worth when comparing possessions.
12) Surround yourself with nurturing friends, not overly critical individuals
who make you feel inadequate or insecure. This could do great harm and damage to
your self confidence