For women, their online
experiences are usually positive, empowering and safe. However, sometimes they
rely too much on their own judgment in making decisions online, which they end
up regretting...
When we talk about problems related to women, the top most priority is given to
their safety. No one can ignore the harassment women face on streets, in
universities and at workplaces but did you ever know that harassments take place
even over the Internet.
Today, teenage girls are extremely computer savvy. They seem to know anything
and everything happening in the Internet world. They are not only prone to
information and entertainment but also to the online sexual content.
Computer-savvy girls are considered 'smart', 'informed', and 'social' and most
agree that girls who do not spend time on the computer have higher risk of being
regarded as unqualified for good jobs in future. After all, computer usage has
become an important part of your curriculum vitae (CV). Besides that a lot of
girls also take it as a way to build social self-confidence and for them their
online experiences are usually positive, empowering and safe.
However, sometimes they rely too much on their own judgment in making decisions
about how to behave online. According to an online research about how the girls
can differentiate between harmful and harmless behaviour, 84 per cent cited
their own common sense; 51 per cent stated that they followed their parent's
advice; and four per cent said "nothing is bad online because it's not really
real." Unfortunately for some teenage girls, common sense does not always work
right.
Girls are extremely aware of Internet dangers, but feel their parents
underestimate their level of awareness about online risks. That's when they
start thinking that the elders don't trust them enough to give them the power to
the world's information network, which encompasses both positive and negative
effects.
An estimate suggests that within twenty minutes an online predator can target a
girl in an Internet; every information is readily available online and one can
learn every possible personal detail about the girl. Any material placed on the
Internet stays there forever and can be misused in many dangerous ways.
A report from the Pew Internet & American Life Project states that a lot of
naive girls have been the target of menacing online activities, such as
receiving threatening messages, having their private e-mails or text messages
forwarded without consent, or having rumors spread about them online.
Internet bullying has become a common practice among Internet users too. The
stronger one takes the biggest share, which is an important characteristic of
forums and discussion panels. In terms of the cyber bullying, girls are more
likely to be bullied than boys and the hottest target becomes the girls of age
group 15 to 17.
The most common form of cyber bullying is someone taking a private e-mail,
instant message or text message and forwarding it to someone else or posting it
publicly. The best advice for teens here is that they should not say anything
secretive or inappropriate in their electronic communications. Young boys and
girls are even advised not to participate in social networking sites.
But can we really stop them from doing so? We can't deny the fact that such
websites have become a standard in communication medium for teens and they may
feel socially excluded if they do not participate. Thus, if they do participate,
they should take every possible step to protect their privacy - such as
interacting only with known friends - by not disclosing much personal
identifiable information.
While there is much concern these days about threats online, an interesting
aspect of the memo is that people are more threatened offline than online. This
could be either in the form of emails or text messages you receive. Even on
forums, the topics related to you heats up more when you are actually not
replying online. Thus, it is important to focus on preventing malicious conduct
online.
Amongst cyber bullying and cyber harassment how can we forget the most familiar
net trait of our society - cyber romance! With the growing use of Internet the
number of net romances are increasing too which results in blind dates. And, if
things work out then it can even lead to a full fledge relationship. But, not
all Internet friendships develop into successful love affairs and then result in
a happy family. Usually, it turns out to be disastrous so emotional girls, is
advised to keep their eyes and minds open.
After unsuccessful relationship or heartbreaks the girls generally don't discuss
their feelings with any one. At the same time, most girls think they are 'too
smart' to get away with anything they do on the cyber space. For them; just
don't fly too high that you can't bear to stand again after your first fall.
Syeda Mahwish Fatima Naqvi