We must antiquate this
prevailing thought among our individuals that if a child becomes rakish, foul
mouthed, insincere and churlish; our society mates straightly blames the
gathering so called a crew of friends of that victim. Without being biased, I
have to add something very bitter that is of course a fact that the victim is
firstly victimized by its parents at first. How..?
As we all are aware since childhood that one needs its parents, especially
mother for the accomplishment of every necessity of life, then how can we blame
any other except her? Just think why does an individual go through a wrong path?
Does not anyone stop him before he become addicted? Why do not any one abate his
absurd activities in the beginning? Why does not anyone stop before he become so
dauntless that he might go through any step of the life? I consider we totally
do wrong with that one because he at first wants his parents to be there at
every stage of life and when parents vacate their place, then it is mostly
occupied by some highly immature grown up ones, as our individual has not
groomed mentally.
We must convivially accept this reality that we sometimes emancipate from all
our given responsibility and leave our children on a charwoman to bring him up
so as a result of this your child will ultimately turn to her rather than you.
He will find easy to interact with her and probably he acquires her thinking and
become a shadow of her thinking and you will name it as your catastrophe
Another obnoxious thing is the parents frequently complain of irresponsible
attitude of their children that they do not worth the value of money and add
that they frequently asks for money and some absurd things. It’s just because of
you, because you always fulfill the demands of your child at maiden and never
compel him to praise as a reward. In the same way you never let him realize that
how difficultly his father or guardian earns that is why he do not worth it.
Sometimes it is also heard that parents claim that they often give some space
for their children which they perceive wrong. Yeah, right, but why? Have you
ever thought about it? I think we all must endorse with this reason that you
brought up your child in an extravagant way and assure him a lavish life from
the initial, then how it could be possible that he do not perceive it in a wrong
way that is only in your accordance.
Being parents some time they commit mistakes and suppose their child not to
intimate them likewise if a father all the time smokes in front of his family
and cudgel his son for the same is inappropriate, on the contrary a mother asks
her children not to watch that idiot box (television) but she does so, in both
the above cases we cannot totally blame the parents but it is a real and
established fact that children intimate their parents the first and most.
Although we cannot say that parents must be confined, but they also need to
sacrifice a bit in order for their rising generation to be on the right path
Now I am going to expose the integral reason of the flaw in the personality of
the juvenile and this is the exploitation of its self-respect. Yes; indeed being
a part of this society the one cares a lot about it and being castigated, rebuke
and scold in front of a humungous gathering, damages it's feeling and as a
consequence of it he find easy to escape rather than to face the music. Another
serious issue that I am going to enlighten is the discrimination factor that
unintentionally our parents set up, everyone has not got the same capability so
we do not ask him for worthy credentials and we must not put the weak one into
pressure of recognizable scheme of studies. On the same hand, one cannot deny
that the parents ask this for the better future and sustainability.
The compendium of above written paragraphs throws light on adequate behavior and
sincere, but frank relations of parents with their offspring and the utmost one
is the character building, be attentive and try not to emancipate with your
given responsibilities. Give your child the time he needs or else he will turn
around what you do not want from him. Before it’s too late, get up from your
deep slumber and take control over these unwanted situations because the one
will accuse you in future for bringing diffidence in his personality.