A new research at an American
sociological association says that too much time being alone could increase your
risk for cancer and heart diseases. They also found out that people who prefer
to hang only by themselves had significantly higher signs of inflammation on
their bloodstreams than those who go into different social gatherings and the
effect was most dramatically higher in males. To be a little precise, those who
are having only a little number of close friends had a 24 higher risk of dying
from cancer and a 12% higher risk of dying from a heart disease.
Most people have the great characteristics but are shy enough to socialize, and
others are just plain too shy or do not have the courage too. It is said that
socializing and having friends keep us healthy by protecting us from things that
may make us stressed and that being alone could bring. But if you don't have
enough social contact, your immune system can decrease, putting yourself in a
risk for depression and other diseases.
So what do you do if you're a shy person? Opening up takes a lot of courage but
if you did, you'll feel really great. If you really don't know how to initiate,
I am here to let you know my ways on how i socialize as an Introvert.
As an introvert, I also have the pain of initiating the act of socializing with
other people. As a result, I am having trouble to express my own ideas and
opinion. But after learning some ways to other people, I learned how and
developed my own technique on how I am able to socialize even as an introvert.
1.) Just be yourself:
Just ignore what other people thinks of you. I mean, that is one of the most
basic human nature. We love to judge things (Guilty!) But if you know that you
yourself are judging other people too, then don't mind what other people thinks
about you. You are you and you are not living to please them. In reality,
whatever you do, there will always be a comment regarding on who you are.
If you are shy or reserved, act it up and let other people get interested to
you. But don't let anyone open you up in just one sitting. Let them get curious
to you day after day and let them know you slowly. That way, you won't be forced
to say anything that you don't want to say to anyone.
2.) Love yourself First:
Ok, you acted just who you are, but at the back of your mind, you still have
doubts whether you look good or not. Stop doing that! Love yourself first. If
you don't love yourself first, how can you love someone else? We are not a
perfect being so; love who you are and what you are. Whether you are fat or too
thin, small or too big. Everyone has their own flaws.
3.) Have a Good Appearance:
Dress up for who you are. There are a lot of fashion items and ways to make
yourself presentable on Google based on what kind of person you are. Whether you
are a fashionable person or just a plain person.
Think, would you talk to a person that haven't got a shower for the past few
days? Is the answer no right? Make yourself clean and presentable to anyone to
start socializing. Smile! It'll do you good and make you a lot friendly than
giving them a grumpy look.
Look into a mirror and judge yourself whether you are a fine looking person yet.
If not, find yourself some style that would suit you and is good to the eye.
Remember to put yourself in the shoes of others when deciding on what kind of
style you are going to wear. But remember, be yourself.
4.) Practice makes it Perfect:
Don't be afraid to fail at your first initiation of socializing. We are all bad
on our first try after all. Don't lose hope and be optimistic all the way.
Remember that being a sociable person as an introvert isn't a one night process.
It takes days and sometimes weeks to be able to establish a good conversation
with a stranger or someone you know but have no good relationship with.
Practicing in a mirror is a good thing too. I do it especially today since an
interview is coming up and I want myself to be prepared.
5.) Find People with the Same Interest as Yours
It is easy to initiate a conversation with people whom you share the same
interest. Birds of the same feather flocks together right? With today's social
media, you can find different groups on the internet that shares the same
interest. You can start off with them and then get close with them.
6.) Be Friendly even to Strangers
If someone approaches you, smile and welcome them. This is also one way to
socialize. You could meet different type of people and with a different
personality to help you understand the world even if a little. When talking,
look them at the eyes to make you look that you are interested and listen to
them closely. If there is a need to make a comment, do so. If none, ask some
question. Questions should not be typical short conversations like "how do you
do" finds something that might interest the both of you. Don't be afraid to
experiment with different topics just don't forget to limit yourself.
There are multiple ways on how to socialize and it depends on you on how you
will make your own move. But I highly suggest meeting different people so that
you can grow yourself rather than being in front of your computer for a long
period of time.
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