Once there was a child,his
teacher gave him a letter and asked him to give that letter to his mother. The
child came home and gave that paper to his mother. When his mother started
reading the letter, her eyes filled with tears. The child asked his mother about
the letter, in response, she loudly read the letter to her child: Your son is a
genius. This school is too small for him and doesn’t have enough good teachers
for training him. Please teach him yourself. Time passed and that child grew up.
One day after the death of his mother he was looking through old family things,
during that he found a folded paper. He took it up and started reading. On the
paper was it written: your son is addled (unable to think clearly; confused.) we
cannot teach him more. He realized the reason of her mother’s tearful eyes and
cried for hours.
That addled boy has become a genius of the world who is still being acknowledged
and appreciated for his utmost precious contribution for the world. His name is
Thomas Edison. Yes,Thomas Edisona great inventor.
The story of Thomas Edison opened windows in my mind and forced me to explore
the reason of such wonder. A dyslexic child becomes a genius!Edison is not less
than a miracle for me. After reading about his early years education which was
not imparted inany school I am confused. I ask myself, why am I bothering about
schools?Why am I struggling to earn money and send my children to elite school,
hoping to make them genius?
In the story of Thomas Edison, it is crystal clear thatthe school did not
provide a platform to Edison rather his home and his mother. A mother, who very
logically, wisely and patientlywas able tohandle the situation. A mother, whose
child was suffering from a learning disability, was cured by her, who was not a
doctor or a physician.
Majority of the parents are blessed with normal children by Allah the Almighty,
but we with our behaviorand actions making them abnormal. Today’s mother with
many facilities and opportunities are unable to provide an environment that can
foster efficient child learning process and help him to achieve his
developmental milestones. The main reason behind that is our perceptions and
approach towards our child.
We are, all the time,comparing our children with othersrather than comparing him
with his past. We are forcing them to get 90% in exam but never encourage them
to show his talent and work on. Instead of appreciating our kids for what they
do good we pressurize them to do what we saywhich we ourselvesdo not do.
For our relaxation we handover technology to our children which is badly
affecting their cognitive, social skills and emotions. We mothers have
everything but lack patience and positive attitude towards our kids. We try to
fulfil the demands of our kids but fail to identify their developmental needs
and feelings.
Dear Mothers, search for the grey areas that need to be improved in you so to
explore your child inner potential. Do not waste your time searching for
colorful dresses for your child but use that time in adding colors in your
child’s life. Don’t waste your time in making tasty food but add taste in your
words. Don’t buy movie tickets but become a director of your child’s life movie.
Don’t sit in front of the TV and watch star dramas but watch your child’s
activities, enjoy and laugh.
MOTHERa name that sooths one’s wounds, that came first when one hurt and a
universe for us whether a new baby or 90 years old.
Dear Mothers’ realize your worth. What makes difference is your presence in your
child’s life. Get engage and take interest in your child’s activities.Spent
quality time with your child. Read stories for them, sing songs, laugh loudly
with them and make them realize that you love and care thema lot. Praise your
child’s efforts towards accomplishment.
Use your mind and act wisely likeThomas Edison mother used and changed the fate
of her child and the world.
ABC of parenting
A-Appreciate your child’s efforts
B-Be active and attentive
C- Create strong bond
D-Develop life rules
E-Evaluate your parenting style
F-Fascinate them toward studies with your actions not with words
G-Give moral support
H-Hug your child when he wakes up and when he goes to bed
I-Inculcate the roots of humanity
J-Join your child in reading books
K-Keep positive expectations and show
L-Laugh with your child loudly
M-Manage your time
N-Never use negative words
O-Orient your child about right and wrong positively
P-Provide moral support
Q-Quality time matters not quantity
R-Reflect on your behavior and modify accordingly
S-Share house chores
T-Teach your child healthy habits
U-Use different dealing techniques
V-Value the child feelings
W-Watch cartoon and movie together on weekend
X-Xeroxand make a portfolio of your child activities and achievement
Y-You can do it should be your answer
Z-Zealously celebrate your child minor and major achievements.