When a child is born, he doesn’t have any feelings he just has sensations. The one who converts sensations into feelings is none other than a mother. But one thing that should be kept in mind is that the role of a mother might be played by a father or grandparent in some exceptional circumstances.
When a child takes approval from his mother, his sensations start converting into feelings. For example, if elder brother of the child steals something or insults someone, the younger child, whose emotions does not develop yet, should look at his mother to see if it is acceptable or not and if the mother dislikes the action, then there is the realization that this is a bad thing similarly if mother didn’t take any notice regarding this misbehaviour, then child realize it’s normal. A newly born child always sees his mother's approval or disapproval of any action and in this way, a child's sensations start converting into feelings and he realizes the difference between good and bad.
A child doesn’t have a conscious mind nor does he or she has the problem-solving ability or contain any reasoning so he or she will act as a recording machine now it is our choice what we have to feed in it. Now the child will be able to give a name to his feelings. This stage is called verbalization. In this stage, the child makes likes and dislikes.
The next phase is action. Each action he or she perform depends on what we feed in his mind in the early years. What a child does in the given circumstances is called action. A child’s conscious brain and pattern mind develop at the age of 7 and till this age, habits have been made in a child.
Parents use to think that giving bits of advice to their children time by time is essential while upbringing their kids but truth is that it’s a very common mistake done by parents. Children do not do such things that we ask them to do, children always do the things that they observe from their surroundings. So, this has to be realized that to nurture children, the most important tool is “role modelling”. When the child is born in any family apply restrictions upon you to see a perfect human being that you want to see at the age of 20.
Remember one thing Allah has given you a gift in the form of a child. If you want to make him or her a useful person for society, then you have to get up, sit down, walk, get dressed even speak in a manner that you want to see in your child after 20 years. Make an ideal routine around your child to create the positive habits that you want your child to adopt and repeat so you don't have to give him or her advice. Your child will be what you want it to be.