The So-Called Suhagunain

It is the tragedy of our society that some people get Nikahfied, and then the spouses lives like two banks of a river ….. walking side by side, yet alone, distant, and disconnected from each other.
The newlywed bride’s husband leaves just a few days after the wedding, either to the border or across the sea and doesn’t return for years.
The prime youth of the newly married couple passes in enduring the pain of loneliness and separation.
If there is no intention to live a real, practical life after marriage, if the true responsibilities of marriage are not going to be fulfilled, and one is to spend their entire youth in isolation then there is no justification for marriage.
If, after marriage, life is to be lived not with the husband but with his parents and siblings, and all of a girl’s energy is to be spent keeping them happy, then what’s wrong with her own parents and siblings? Why shouldn’t she just stay with them instead?
When the very person for whom she leaves everything behind ends up leaving her,
then living among Na Mehram people is not easy.
It becomes a great trial …. a tragedy, when the very person who is supposed to be her protector and companion is the very one who is absent.
It is clearly stated in Shariah that if a person is unable to fulfill the basic rights of a wife, he should avoid marriage and instead keep fasts.
Yet people still go ahead and marry …. simply because someone agrees to give them their daughter.
A poor local laborer won’t receive a proposal, but a daughter is readily given to an overseas man, even if she ends up living like a maid in her in-laws’ house without her husband.
Just having the label of “being married” is considered enough.
No one understands that a so-called married woman lives and dies a little every single day.
For overseas men belonging to the middle and lower-middle class, their top priorities usually include building a house for their parents and arranging the marriages of their siblings. Even after that, supporting and financially assisting them remains part of the agenda.
As a result, despite toiling day and night in a foreign land, this sacrificial goat is never allowed to live his own life.
Before losing the wealth of his youth and health, he can neither return home permanently nor call his wife to join him.
Blood relations drain him dry. These are the leeches that the overseas goat tries to keep happy at the cost of his own family life, and in doing so, he end up destroying his wife’s youth along with his own.
No one even realizes that while making everyone’s lives better, he has ruined his own hereafter.
Will there be no accountability for those who wrong their wives?
Those who are husbands in name, yet their wives taste the bitterness of widowhood during their very lifetime.