If we consider the side effects
of arranged marriage, the first thing that comes to my mind is that the boy and
the girl do not get to know their future spouses before marriage. Two unknown
people get married without knowing and understanding each other. I have heard of
many cases from my friends that girls even do not get the opportunity to see
their bridegroom before marriage. In case of arranged marriages the marriage
itself is the beginning. They will have to start from the very beginning, know
each other, fall in love or rather you have to fall in love, as you have no
other choice.
The matching of Destiny is a must, but does that mean that the partners are
compatible mentally, emotionally and also physically. One fine day you will
suddenly find a person totally unknown to you and it is decided that you ought
to live the rest of your life with him. According to me the rest of the life
comes later, at that point of time you feel how to spend a day with him.
Everything turns out to be in a random condition. These are some drawbacks that
one face in an arranged marriage.
Love Marriage…….not all the love stories in love marriages have happy endings.
In love marriages you come to know each other quite well, as you get to spend
time with each other, fall in love, and then decide to get married. Although
there is other side of the coin too, which I believe is very true. Staying with
a person under the same shelter requires lot of adjustments, patience and
understanding from both. Even after you spend hours with each other, situation
after marriage is totally different.
In love marriages there is nothing new to discover which at times may end up
making your life boring. When two people are in love, they are at their best to
impress each other. They behave, they talk and they wear what the other person
likes. It is after marriage that you get to know the person behind the mask. On
the other hand there are couples who are still discovering each other even after
several years of their marriage. This is the actual beauty of a relationship
where everyday you discover a new thing about your partner.
Love or arranged both are based on empathy, responsibility, commitment, love and
concern. It's not just about initial love and attraction it needs a lot of
dedication and effort to sustain a marriage. So there is nothing like an ideal
marriage it's all about the way you perceive your marriage. After all you should
be happy with your life partner irrespective of love or arranged marriage.