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(Syed Musarrat Ali, Karachi)

Man of character means a personality of moral quality representing The Mother Nature to some extent as one cannot become a person without any flaw. How do we know what is the standard of Mother Nature? One answer is by observation of Universe but it is not practicable to become a reflection of Nature, the other practicable answer is to follow our mother as she is the only one who loves us with the same intensity as the Mother Nature does. After marriage a girl is transformed in to a mother along with amalgamation of her husband’s characteristics to an extent of compromise to run the show smoothly similar to the one being run by Universal Theatre by balancing good and evil. Every mother under the influence of her extreme affections towards her child would wish to see him / her a reflection of her own plus her husband’s, therefore throughout the period of upbringing all the character building points are transferred to prevent the shadow of any other force because she is bound to be selfish otherwise there will be a very week protective force of her. There is no explanation of this phenomenon except declaring it a natural instinct. No parents would like to let her child float at his / her own; hence they will try their best to bring him / her up as an exemplary character.

Without going in to details and delicacy of a good character the focus remains throughout that their child must not adopt any characteristics which they themselves don’t possess. For example they will never think of their adult child, even independent, dancing on the street without clothes because they themselves would never behave in this manner. The likings and disliking are always pinned to one’s self and can only be enforced upon the one wholly possessed which is not possible in case of other temporary owners of society like any relative, a teacher, colleague or even the best friend. A week possessive power increases the tolerance limits accordingly while total power’s tolerance limits are too tight, therefore Character Building level can be declared on top at home and not at any other place, may it be any individual, group or institution.

Once the foundation laid down is strong enough, there remains minimum risk of any damage to the structure, exceptions are always there, and efforts are made to reach an ideal level of anything. Education provides opportunities through multidimensional interaction to enhance the vision, a tool to multiply the positivity. To get back to upbringing one has to live in not only a family rather a family system for competitive observations and learning within high moral characteristics of a specific family to be referred in future as Family Background. Aims and objectives of a family system are closer to ideal values than any other institution in isolation as for as the moral values are concerned. Fact of the matter is that proper basic education is sufficient to polish the personality which is also available at home but that is an exception.

Syed Musarrat Ali
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