It's a well-known fact that bullying is a problem during childhood and the teen years for many kids. There have been numerous cases of children and teens committing suicide due to their despair over being singled out and bullied for a wide range of reasons. Stomp Out Bullying is one of many organizations that works on anti-bullying campaigns, focusing on children in school.
Bullying doesn't end when childhood does, though. College students, young adults, even older adults can be the victims of bullying, especially cyber bullying. There is no reason why anyone should have to endure this kind of hostile, hurtful behavior.
Extending yourself in a supportive and non-judgmental way will give the person being bullied the opportunity to share their concerns and fears about their situation. While it may seem a little uncomfortable to get involved, helping someone who is being mistreated is the right thing to do, even if it is just walking him or her to the college advising office. There are some reason reasons that why people bully others:
Stress and Trauma is one of the major reason.Our data shows that those who bully are far more likely than average to have experienced a stressful or traumatic situation in the past 5 years. Examples include their parents/guardians splitting up, the death of a relative or the gaining of a little brother or sister. It makes sense because we all respond to stress in very different ways. Some of us use positive behaviours, such as meditation, exercise and talking therapy – designed to relieve the stress.
In order to mask how they actually feel about themselves, some people who bully focus attention on someone else. They try to avoid any negative attention directed at them by deflecting. But know they might look in the mirror at home and hate the way they look. There is so much pressure to live up to beauty and fitness standards. We are taught to compare ourselves to others, instead of embracing our own beauty.
Our research shows that those who have experienced bullying are twice as likely to go on and bully others. Maybe they were bullied as kids in the past, or maybe they are being bullied now. Often it’s used as a defence mechanism and people tend to believe that by bullying others, they will become immune to being bullied themselves. In fact, it just becomes a vicious cycle of negative behaviours.