We often require a “good cry” it makes you feel better, it’s
a natural response to emotion. It helps you relieve your anxiety, toxin, stress,
and enhance your mood. Sometimes crying become healthy catharsis and allow
humans to recover some mental balance after a loss. However, Our main stream
society make this stereotype image that “ Real men never cry” it raises many
questions in my mind Why? Why men’s can never cry even though they have a heart,
they felt sadness, they have been facing challenges and obstacles. They, too,
get abused, misuse, hurt but when they complain about it, they being considering
as WEAK by our society. Men also have a shallow tear duct although men’s cry
less than women they cautiously handle their emotion but if they desire a
healthy cry why people mock at them off handed, without knowing the fact that
what he is going through.
I remember, I was teenage when my mother admitted in the hospital she was in
severe condition her blood reports weren’t satisfactory, but she was in need to
be operated. We all siblings were terrified because of her blood condition.
I remember, I and my sister were badly cries, the fear of losing a mother made
both of us broke down, our cousins and aunts consoled, patted and hugged us,
which somehow, pulled me out of the stress and worry.
I remember, one of my brother was standing in the corner, trying to hide his red
teared sorrowful eyes and kept trying to hold his tears, he didn’t cry, neither
anyone patted his shoulder nor I forced him to weep. Because he was supposed to
be a hard shell, big brother, elder son.
I remember, when I got married, I noticed my husband was worried about his
parents I saw the same red teared sad eyes of him, but this time I didn’t quite
I patted his shoulder and encouraged him to cry and made him realize that they
are your parents you can weep for them there is no shame for a man if he cries.
I remember, when my son born I promised myself I will always encourage my son to
release your emotion instead of holding it and become anger which will affect
him and others in the long run.
Now, being a mother of three sons I make him learn that crying makes you more
affectionate, it makes you feel the pain of your loved one, realize and
understand others situation and helps you be a better version of yourself,
hurting no one for any reason. Don’t hold your tears let it flow down your
cheeks it doesn’t mean you’re weak it means you’re human.