What do I call this love?

(UMAR MAJEED KHAN, Srinagar)

A question, (what is love?) It is not an easy to answer specially for a person who never fell in love. But some time I think that it is the question in real for the same person who never had love because it makes him curious to find the reason that why he never had love and hence he would be the one who can answer better than any other who have experienced it. In fact it is very hard to define love not only for a person who never had that experience but also for one who loves some other one. Every person in the world has answer in some different words but everyone has same feeling for love.

Love is about everywhere around us first of all God love His entire creature and it is the reason that He forgives us every time when we truly feel guilty in our mistakes. We all are in love with many people surrounding us a child is in love for his parents, while parents have love for their children. Friends love each other that are the base of being their friendship for a long time and hence many other relationships. But when we talk about naturally all we assume a love of a couple. It is the one which is not truly bestowed to everyone, just some luckiest are provided with this blessing.

There are two main thoughts for this love some people think that the true love is the one after married and some other says that it is not in that way after getting married.

But I believe that there is nothing to do with being married or unmarried for true love. It is just a boon a blessing by ALLAH. I think to get married without love would be a great risk because one does not know the person to whom he is going to get married if she suites with him or not or a boy is suitable for that girl or not. But it does not mean that one can get a true match for him before married by getting into some affair then the question is that how one can get into the love with someone. The most probable answer again would be the blessing.

Having young blood in our veins and a strong heart inside we all are in hurry to make our life exited of this feeling but, unfortunately we all have to wait for a good fortune when love will knock the door of our heart, we should wait, wait & wait.

He's your good friend. She's your best confidant. You have known each other for a few years and have shared meals, movies, hobbies and vacations. Suddenly you relationship(s) failed (Suppose). You can't imagine life without your good friend. But for a while....

You've felt jealous of his dates. You've been over protective of her since she has been seeing the grab. You've been having very strong feelings of attraction and a desire for something more than friendship. Could it be that your feelings for him/her have grown into something more? If so, your relationship may have developed into a "friend crush".

You don't know what to do. You know you want to continue spending time together, it's getting hard. You dream about having more with this person and are beginning to feel like a jealous would-be partner. Do you actually TALK directly and honestly with your friend about how you feel? What will happen to the relationship if you make the WRONG choice? Just as all people are unique, so are the characteristics of their relationships with others. There is no one-size-fits-all answer to this increasingly common dilemma.

Ignore your feelings; you must be able to deny your feelings so well that even you don't know what they are. You will also have to continue being comfortable on the sidelines while someone else has the relationship with this person that you desire. You will most likely be asked what you think of this or that person and be expected to be happy and supportive of your friend when they meet the right someone for them. In return for all this, you will still have your friend. You have an open and honest discussion with your friend regarding your new feelings for him/her this is the choice that seems to be the hardest for folks to make. Often what I hear from people in this position is that they fear "ruining the friendship" if they discuss their feelings honestly. While this is a very understandable concern, it isn't well thought out. It is emotional, not rational. Everyone will bring about a change in your current friendship. Why?

Intimacy exists in all close relationships. It is the ability to be completely open and vulnerable to another without fear of harm or rejection. So, by definition, we cannot be intimate with another while hiding or denying our true feelings and needs to them. The choice will always be yours. Choosing wisely, the consequences they bring and what will be best for you and your friend.

A Little girl and her father were crossing a bridge. The father was kind of scared so he asked his little daughter, ‘Sweetheart’; please hold my hand so that you don't fall into the river.' The little girl said, 'No, Dad. You hold my hand.'
'What's the difference?,’ Asked the puzzled father
‘There’s a big difference,' replied the little girl.
'If I hold your hand and something happens to me, chances are that I may let your hand go. But if you hold my hand, I know for sure that no matter what happens, you will never let my hand go.'

In any relationship, the essence of trust is not in its bind, but in its bond. So hold the hand of the person who loves you rather than expecting them to hold yours...This message is too short......but carries a lot of Feelings.

This whole story is dedicated to My Love MEEKU....

You are the incomplete story of my life
You are a fluent living in dreams
I always thought you were wrong
I did not know you were my life

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