The sacrifices made for the sake of my children are seen by my Lord, who will never let them go in vain. The people of the world may mock me for not building a home in this world, but I have complete faith in my master, the universe, a palace in heaven is waiting for me. I considered the arrows of mockery rained by unscrupulous people as a test of my patience during the sufferings, and I made it a motto to thank my Lord with my tongue. I don't have any worries anymore. He who loves me more than seventy mothers will use his peace in everything that happens in my life. These are the words of twenty-nine-year-old Alia, who is raising her three children alone. Alia has been married for five years. But they say it seems as if five decades have passed in these five years
The problems faced by a single mother in our society are numerous, especially a mother whose children's father has left her and has not even divorced her, because in our society, widows are also sympathized with and their orphans are cared for. But a divorced woman or a victim of loss of rights by her husband, despite being truthful, is a target of social oppression, despite being beautiful, polite and good character, she is blamed for not being settled at home, and is considered suspicious without the truth is
A single mother means raising her children on all three fronts, emotional, physical and financial. Those who stay at work reject this single mother thinking that this woman is fulfilling the duties of both mother and father alone. At home, her children will be waiting for her alone and she has to solve all the problems alone which may be. They will never end and therefore she will fail to perform well because she is a single mother
I was 24 years old and he was 40. My family ignored this age difference because he was highly educated and employed abroad. I had a Doctor of Pharmacy degree and was working in a good pharmaceutical company. After some time after marriage we shifted to America. My husband had a good salary but he forced me to work. I finally got a job in a medical store whose owner was a Muslim and he had no objection to my veil. My husband would send more than half of his salary to Pakistan and keep my salary for household expenses. Everyone is equal, the rent of the house will be shared with everyone. I did not like to live in America, nor did I have any desire to be a western woman who equals men. I said that I am an eastern woman. I decided to get married with the intention of forming. I cook for you and do housework I fulfill the rights of my husband, I am loyal and sincere to you and now I want to stay at home for the better health and education of our future children, but what kind of work are you doing? I did. I passed that time very hard and finally left the job after the birth of my daughter
My husband's salary was thousands of dollars, but there were not even a few dollars for my wife and daughter. My sisters allowed me to marry on the condition that after marriage you will bear your own expenses. Chose the girl but you left your job after marriage and the second condition is that you will not live with my sisters in the house even though that house was built by my husband with his own earnings.
In order to meet the expenses of my daughter, my husband suggested that you cook food very well, do that, cook food for people on order, you will only have a few dollars, anyway, you have to be a housewife, then I started working with my innocent daughter. It was difficult to work alone all day, take care of my daughter and work, wake up at night, but I had to do something. commented that three children in two years of marriage, how expensive it is to raise children in America, because my husband's earnings were raising his sisters' children, so he was not happy about the birth of his brother's children. The husband said. I married an educated and working girl because she would lighten my burden. You have increased my responsibilities. I have no use in keeping you here. Go back to Pakistan. Go back to your mother's house. There is no special need, I was going through it even before you, I will do it in the future as well
A person who is addicted to fulfilling his desires through forbidden and disgusting methods does not get a legitimate and halal life. Young people who are not married at the right age despite their desire, they become addicted to bad habits.
The porn site business on the internet shines because of such people.
In this sin, those parents are equally responsible who neglect the training of their children and do not marry at a proper age and sometimes brothers have to remain unmarried while waiting for the marriages of their sisters.
And it was given to him from childhood that the wife can come from another, not the mother and sisters. carry out
After coming to Pakistan, I got a job in a multinational company and Alhamdulillah now I am holding a high position
Single mothers have established an institution for single mothers, where they are given financial support and moral training. May the mother be strong and stable even if she is alone
My husband says I know my children are growing up under the tutelage of a worthy mother and I am sure you will forgive me when I need you and the children in school because you are a virtuous and oriental woman.
Men who have seen women from all over the world wish that they would be blessed with a spouse whom no Mahram has ever seen.
My husband also chose me with the same thought, but unfortunately I got a husband who was a very obedient son and responsible brother, but he could not be a sincere husband and a kind father and kept on denying the rights of his wife and children due to the pressure of his sisters. A victim of which one sister spent her life rejecting her upcoming relationship in search of an ideal and made her brother's married life a show of her regrets, and the other made her husband a nakma by rejuvenating her children with her brother's earnings. He made him homeless and kept his house at home
But the man who perpetrates all these atrocities is sometimes oppressed because of his mother, sisters and circumstances. He becomes a good son and brother, but he cannot become a loving husband and a responsible father.
In the law of Pakistan, there is a law for the identity documents of orphans and missing fathers, but the law is silent for children whose father is alive and lacks support.
Tatheer says father's name is there in my documents but father has no role in my life.
Taheer Fatima has written her name as 'Taheer bint Pakistan' in the petition filed in the Supreme Court and this is actually her demand that she wants to remove the name of her father Shahid Ayub from the paternity box in her documents at the age of 22. .
Tatihir says that since her matriculation till now, her father has not provided any kind of support for her educational credentials and travel documents.
I refuse to recognize him as my father. The one who never called my name. My name does not exist in his family tree. People ask where is the father? Is this your mother? I have suffered humiliation on a social level.'
Tahir told the media that 'I am where I am today because of my mother. I have not seen my father till today and for the first time today in court I did not want to look at him. This may be the first and last meeting.'
Tatheer and her mother complain that when they were required to make Form B in matriculation, the father refused. She says that when they called the father himself in matriculation in 2009, the father flatly refused and set the condition. That 'First apply against your mother in the police station that she is not a good woman then I will think for you.
On the occasion of the second hearing of this case in the Supreme Court, Tahir Fatima, standing with her parents in front of the three-member bench, repeated the same demand while crying.
It was a scene of a family court in which the husband and wife were blaming each other for the situation. According to Shahid Ayub, when he separated from Fahmida in 1998, the family jirga in Peshawar. He was told that he will not have any relation with his daughter. Later, he tried half a time but did not succeed. On the rebuke of the court that he had ever knocked on the door of a state institution to cause a meeting, he said, "Yes, it's my fault, I have never done this".
Perhaps the court can forgive the shortcomings of a father like him, but will they be forgiven in the court of God.