Lady Sub-Inspector Mary Rose, who committed suicide due to a domestic dispute, wrote her last words on the mirror of her dressing table in her bedroom.
While apologizing to her mother, she bequeathed that her daughters should be married to someone who could take responsibility for them.Mary Rose was in charge of the Transgender Cell established at A Western City Police Station. Mary Rose was a very capable police officer
It is also worth mentioning here that the lady police officer Meri Roz was the supervisor of the transgender cell established for crimes related to women. The police system and social attitudes are being questioned after the suicide of the lady police officer, the guardian of law and women's protection. Why didn't you do that? Why didn't you do that? When does a soul accept its helplessness and how forced? This suicide is a murder which is done by mental torture.
It is better than dying by committing suicide. Separate your ways. Most of the women do not decide to divorce or khula because of this and remain in the mill of oppression. continue to bear the oppression and persecution of the in-laws until the husband himself kicks them out of the house. They endure mental and physical torture
Women do not have the strength to bear the taunts and taunts of people in the case of divorce or khula, and they endure mental and physical torture from their husbands to avoid all these things.
Divorce is still considered a social stigma in our society. I believe that divorce is permissible in Islam but also undesirable
Most of our society has the influence of Hindu culture in which remarriage is considered to be bad. If you see, only one wife of our Prophet (PBUH) was a virgin, while the rest of the wives were pure widows or divorced, sometimes twice. She was divorced and twice widowed
The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) married Ameerul Momineen Hazrat Zainab and Allah Ta'ala attributed this marriage to Himself. Getting married is not a bad thing, such women must marry again
By marrying divorced women and widows, the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) eradicated the idea that it is a defect for a woman to be related.
Marrying a divorced woman is a pure act. Through marriage, the lineage is also pure and protected. That's why Islam has given it the status of virtue. In Islam, being divorced is not a defect, nor is marrying a divorced woman a bad thing.
According to Shariah, such women must remarry. It is more preferable to marry a widow, divorcee or a well-off woman because it is the protection of the woman and it is wrong to consider such women as defective in our society. Remarry for any woman. Starting a new life is very difficult. This is not a new debate. But whenever a woman remarries and tries to live life again, the double standard of our society is visible.
Of course you are happy in your life, you are successful, you are doing many things that others can't do, but society reminds you of this again and again, then you yourself start to feel that maybe there is something in me. And people want you to feel this loss. People feel sorry for you that you got divorced. Most women think after divorce that it's all over. But it's not. A failed marriage means a failed one. Not life but life always has something for you, you just have to try to get it. A woman should motivate herself.
Asked some questions from some such brave women who are engaged in the quest to live their life again
How to handle yourself after divorce?
How to cope with social attitudes?
When did you reach that point in your married life when you decided enough was enough?
Which relationships supported and who left?
What is the greatest improvement in past and present life?
Ever regret your decision?
What are the issues that prevent a woman from doing this?
What is the impact on children, positive or negative?
Why does our society consider a woman's second marriage as a handicap while in Islam there is no reason for it?
Does a woman have to be married to be successful, what kind of social attitudes do unmarried or divorced women face and do single women consider themselves successful?
Alina Arshad, a psychologist who went through this bitter experience of life at a young age, says that a woman never takes this step, she is forced to take this step, she always becomes silent, sometimes because of someone and sometimes because of someone else. But if she takes the step, she needs a lot of motivation behind her because thinking about the future, if she takes this decision, she will never take this decision. Support this woman so that she can create a better future and a better nation in the coming time
Today's woman thinks she can do everything and no doubt a woman is strong, but the society we have is a male-dominated society. You have to work hard to find a place. If a woman is doing something for herself, then in this society of men, we think that no, a woman is weak. The second thing is that men's society is a different thing, but it has been seen that women are the greatest enemies of women, so it is more forbidden for women to live with other women, even if they want to. Be it a nanny, a mother-in-law or a lady boss in a company
Be it your colleagues or whatever we do, we are always comparing each other's lives to belittle each other.
In our society we have made divorce and divorce such a topic that even divorced and divorced girls do not want to talk about it. I think life is not as difficult as we have made it if you talk about the era of Islam. Talking about the era of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, you said that if you are not caring for the people, then you can talk to each other and take a different path, but if we talk about the current society and if we even start thinking about it. If we do, our society is under so much pressure that more than half of the girls are not able to leave their husband under this pressure that after that their life will not exist, people will look at us critically and then life will end after that. It will happen while it doesn't
Social attitudes hurt a lot like for example many people started saying it's sad you got divorced you're too young you've just seen what you've seen in your life it's so big it's such a long journey how will you get married Who will marry you? These were many questions that made me wonder what sin I have committed by taking away the khal and what crime I am being punished for. As far as married people are concerned, I think when When you share your time with someone, you get to know that person's life, and in my life, because that place came for a very short time, I did not spend time together, but still, I started to know about some things. And when things went away from self-respect, that this person started putting my respect behind my family's respect and respect, then I felt that now is the time to part ways. Parents supported me. My family gave a lot of support Alhamdulillah no one left because everyone knew what happened and how it happened and whose fault it was no one left. Everyone supported me before and in my current life, I feel better now because I have left behind the phase of being afraid of the situation and going into depression. It also encouraged me to try to get out of it and Alhamdulillah today I have started working on myself, I have started working on my own grooming both personally and professionally and then by the grace of Allah I am doing it more and more. And in my life, I feel that Allah takes something from you, then He gives you something better in return, so that is the best thing that Allah has given me in exchange for what I have now. He has given me so much success that I cannot thank him enough
No, I have never regretted my decision, nor will I ever regret this decision, nor will it ever come to a point where I will regret it. There are many problems that prevent a woman from taking this decision, including First of all, there is the pressure of our society, there is also the pressure of the parents, especially when there are children, the pressure of the children is very much, what will happen to them, what will happen to their future.
Taking parents, a person thinks that the parents have given him a difficult marriage and when they hear this, what will happen and how will they go through and will they be able to bear the shock or not? How will my family perceive me? How will my family perceive my parents? So there are many factors that I think prevent a woman from taking such a big step.
In our society, second marriage is considered bad because we think that if the girl has divorced, then she was a very mature thing. If he wanted to keep it, he didn't press it, then he thought that I would divorce him, and if the girl gets divorced, then the girl is still wrong, either her character is damaged or there are many other flaws, and we just have to It seems that the woman is at fault in every situation because a woman who is what she is can build a house and a woman can break a house if she wants to. So Karni had a second marriage, she liked someone else, because of that she left the first one, I don't know what she thinks about herself, different things like this, different things that are heard in our society.
I don't think it is necessary to be married for a woman's success. It is said that a woman's hand is behind a man's success, so I think a man's hand is also behind a woman's success, that man can be her brother. Yes, that man can be her husband and that man can be her father. Mutual relations will be good. You will understand each other and you will understand the talent of a woman and you will know. That this woman has this talent and if you polish it a little bit, she will fight with every big power in the world, then you support her and then you go like this and so on. Then you see that many of the women you may have heard of have made a name for themselves
A single woman is considered successful and she tries hard. See, it has become a trend in our country that now women who are single and those who have experienced bad accidents and see bad things, then they start to understand. It is better if we don't get married
As a psychologist, the biggest problem we have is the expression of power. We think that men can express their power better. So you see, if a woman has power, no man can stand in front of her.
Faiz Bushra, who holds a high position in an international organization, says that whenever a woman takes such a step, she is socially pressured, due to which she does not even take such a step. There are very few strong women who step up like this
I was easy to handle because I was a strong woman working and I didn't have financial problems such that I had to beg from others or stay indoors and answer questions from people around me. As I was living an independent life, I did not face so many difficulties and secondly, I did not have to go round the courtroom much and face social attitudes in a way that I would at a wedding or any other function. I used to not go in white, but I used to pretend that I was busy with my office because I knew what our people thought and for a long time I did not tell it in the family when no one knew that I was menstruating, so no one asked too many questions, after that I started job, then after a long time people found out and by then I had established myself socially and economically. Because of this, I didn't face too many problems. After about five years of marriage, I realized that Just don't do this thing anymore
I moved from a small town to a big town. After going there, I started the job and started the process of her removal. No I had to support myself now life is much better and very good mashallah never regretted my decision.
I knew that not a marriage but economic independence could save my life. I believe that marriage or having a man by your side does not guarantee your success.
I know many single women who are successful in their field, being married is not a guarantee of success
Give the right to live to the divorced and Khula woman. Parents should leave the exhortation to return to the funeral while placing their daughters in the doli. A live divorced girl is a hundred times better than a violently killed corpse. This society and those people because of which you risk the lives of your own children. Cut them out of your lives.
A divorced daughter is better than a dead one. Parents, encourage your children to express their pain to you, because there are still many women in the society who cannot express their pain despite their problems.