AsalamOAlaikum,
This is Your Sister Mehreen Mushtaq, I am a daughter, sister, mother, wife,
teacher, parent counselor, and I have a huge research on child psychology,
nature and nurture. Here I am going to share my lifetime experience with you
through a Sequel of a very sensitive topic, which we usually ignore and take it
as for granted.
Dear Mothers, the first five years of your child are fundamentally important,
that built the shape of your child’s future physical and mental health,
development, learning achievements, in school, family, community and life in
general, that molds your child nature. Remember you can change bad habit but you
cannot change one’s nature.
First question is why those 5 yrs. are important?
Answer is “Recent research confirms that the first five years are particularly
important for the development of the child's brain, and the first three years
are the most critical in shaping the child's brain architecture. Early
experiences provide the base for the brain's organizational development and
functioning throughout life. They have a direct impact on how children develop
learning skills as well as social and emotional abilities.”
Children learn more quickly during their early years than at any other time in
life. They need love and nurturing to develop a sense of trust and security that
turns into confidence as they grow.
First half of those 5 years should be managed carefully and avoid everything
which you don’t want to teach your child. Reason is, “the child is in the
process to store impressions from environment unconsciously, because his brain
is going through a developing process and he is actually absorbing things, like
a sponge absorbs everything weather clean or dirty.
The child in the other half is conscious and reasoning period, here he seeks
reasons for those impressions he stored previously, and the process you have to
follow is show in first half then define in simple words according to the age in
next half. If you want to be successful in raising a sophisticated, sensitive,
talented, polished, well mannered child you have to understand your child.
Why is that important to understand your child?
Understanding your child is one of the most important things that you should
learn as a parent. It is very helpful in becoming effective in guiding and
nurturing your child as they grow and mature. You need to bear in mind that your
child has a unique personality trait that remains consistent throughout life.
One of the ways you can
understand your child is by observing them as they sleep, eat, or play. Look for
the consistent traits. Which activities do they like best? Is adjusting to
changes easy for them or do they need time to become familiar with these things?
These things are the normal characteristics of a child and your child may not be
an exception.
As much as possible, have time to talk to your children as this is crucial to
gaining information and understanding. In the case of young children, they
require less verbal language and more facial expression and body language in
order to understand their thoughts and feelings. Asking them questions will
allow them to share their feelings to you.
What is child’s Emotional development?
During early years, children start to develop a "self-concept," the attributes,
abilities, attitudes and values that they believe define them. They work hard to
successfully go through this period. Here what they are learning.
They start identifying their own selves, For example, young children label
themselves in terms of age "child or adult", gender "boy or girl", physical
characteristics "short or tall", and value, "good or bad. "Besides that they
discover and understand their own feelings and how to cope with it, as you know
usually kids are emotional black mailers. This is how they manage the way they
feel. At the same time they accurately read and understand the feelings of
others and react accordingly. When they notice their blackmailing is not working
and adult is angry they instantly change their reaction. shape the way they
behave. They develop Empathy for others which is the ability to identify and
understand somebody else's feelings or difficulties and build and keep good
relationships with friends, family and others.
From the time they are born, children quickly develop their abilities to
experience and express different emotions, as well as their capacity to cope
with and manage a variety of feelings. Mold you child in such a way that he
become a successful individual throughout the life.
That is all for today I will gradually provide all about your child psychology
from birth till childhood. Kindly wait for my Next episode that will be about
Infant. Thanks