Know yourself_understand and be understood.

How well do you know yourself?

When the very idea of sharing my thoughts with random people popped up into my mind,I had doubts about my own credibility and about the validity of information that I hold.But why hide and hesitate and why get scared in the first place when you've got nothing to loose.It barely took me 5 minutes to muster up enough courage and persue what I had in my mind and to click open the edit note on my phone and start typing.I have been cutting and erasing and adding new sentences yet not knowing why exactly am I doing this.The thing is that I'm doing what makes me comfortable.I have this disturbance inside me telling me all the time
'you know something that most people choose to ignore,why not enlighten them?'
Now I am nowhere near an expert but one thing that is pretty evident is that my four months of psychology classes have had a major impact on my life.
I'll start with empathy,the moment i heard that word i knew it meant something deep.I wanted to understand so i started finding its meaning out of my very own life.I started putting myself in other shoes and it changed my whole perspective of dealing and understanding with the people around.I used to pick up fights with my friedns so randomly and so awkwardly on small issues and I would get mad at them befored they could even figure out something was wrong .I would often fight with them over issues like getting late or not texting back.And i never really did the courtesy of believing what they had to say.However, when I started thinking the other way around,I kept asking myself what if I were them and was cought in the similar situation, would it be the same thing?would I do the same?
The answer to these small 'questions to self' helped me to get over my anger, they helped me to avoid small duels and big quarrels with people around
See this is simple psychology,no big deal and all you have to do is to put yourslef in others shoes.
Moving on,how about handling with stress.I went to this outlet and found a beautiful dress that I really wanted to wear for my cousins marriage but turns out I couldn't buy it.I had pictures of it and every time I would see them they'd make me sad all over again.ultimately, I took the courage to delete them.No more pictures,no more reminder,no more pain.
I really am not suggesting to be a wuss and run away from your pain but sometimes if you want to get over it you can severe your ties with the very thing that makes you remember it.
Ever wonder why you'd help
somebody out?may be its time to look at things from a different perspective. Ever thought may be you are kind to people because if you're not you're not satisfied and your heart is unable to rest.So you are actually kind to yourself when you are pretending to be kind to others.During my exams there was a friend who kept asking me to help her with studies and I never wanted to do it.Guess what?I couldn't say no to her because every time I thought of doing it my heart would hurt and tell me 'she needs help and you can't walk out on her'.Another friend of me commended by saying 'you are soft hearted' but I know why I said yes.It's because humans tend to be at a state of peace.It is in there very nature that if something makes them frustrated or disturbs them they'll use different defence machanisms to help themsleves out.So I said yes to her but I know I didnt do it for her,I did it for myslef.I am certainly not saying that this explanation is valid in cases when you are really willing to help people from the bottom of your heart.
The point that i am trying to make here is that people need to understand what they do and why they do it?.This will definitely make my an impact on their lives.
Donot trust everyone ,do not befriend everyone and do not get alluded by the outlooks.
If you live wise, you'll live happy.