How to satisfy the wife?
(Manhaj As salaf, Peshawar)
These days in morning shows in Pakistan (media) there is a bad, shamelessly and blatantly with unconcealed ways the question is asked how to satisfy the wife? In these shows usually non-Islamic minded people are invited to participate to talk against men and in favor of women freedom. In my personal view, before to talk about how to satisfy a wife, it is important that a man must choose a correct wife for himself. And a woman must accept only proposal of a Muslim man who has a correct view of life. And keep in mind that our life is not based upon dunya alone but deen as well. For example a Muslim long bearded man, ma sha Allaah, who fear Allaah; he must:
1. Choose a wife who love the Allaah's deen and is upon correct methodology and aqeedah, and she must not be a woman whose heart is filled with only worldly desires.
2. She must hide herself and protect her chastity and must do the sharai pardah (from head to toe) from all kinds of non-mahram men.
3. She must have a lot of patience in herself and she fears Allaah in her heart and actions, and she must not be the one who fear people or get inspired from people having more dunya than she herself.
Remember that if you want to have a peace of mind in your home then the man must have such attributes as well like he love Allaah's deen the most, is aware of correct creed and methodology of Muslims, is sincere in his actions, have a lot of patience and must work hard to earn his livelihood.
When such a woman comes in the aqdun-nikaah of a Muslim man then their life would become very easy, with the mercy of Allaah. Because they would be seeing each other as blessings even if they are having a very few blessings with them. And in the things they are less fortunate like (money, property, wealth etc or any other things) they would not be seeing those things rather their vision would be vast. This is even told in authentic narration as well. Prophet (صلى الله عليه وسلم) said:
" إِذَا نَظَرَ أَحَدُكُمْ إِلَى مَنْ فُضِّلَ عَلَيْهِ فِي الْمَالِ وَالْخَلْقِ فَلْيَنْظُرْ إِلَى مَنْ هُوَ أَسْفَلَ مِنْهُ مِمَّنْ فُضِّلَ عَلَيْهِ " .
translation: When one of you looks at one who stands at a higher level than you in regard to wealth and physical structure he should also see one who stands at a lower level than you in regard to these things (in which he stands) at a higher level (as compared to him).
(sahih muslim, hadith number: 2963)
may Allaah give us proper understanding of our deen upon the correct methodology and may Allaah protect us from the habit of seeing others blindly what they are doing in their life, Allaahumma aameen.