Securing Rewards in Marriage
(Muhammad Arsalan Ilyas, Karachi,Pakistan)
by Hazrat Maulana Yunus Patel
Saheb (rahmatullah alayh)
The sawaab (reward) for the sabr (patience) a woman exercises over her
difficulties in managing the home of her husband and fulfilling the rights of
her husband and children sometimes is such, which makes her ‘reach’ Allah Ta’ala
very quickly. This, however, is conditional to her obedience to Allah Ta’ala;
fulfilling His Rights, the Rights of His Rasul (Sallallaahu ‘alayhi waSallam),
as well as the Rights of His Creation.
Women who have a number of children, sometimes even a temperamental husband,
together with many household chores and other responsibilities sometimes think
that they cannot achieve the ranks of the Auliya Allah[1] because they do not
have time for ‘wazeefas’[2] and Nawaafil (optional prayers).
I tell them that they need not worry about too many wazeefas. The most important
‘wazeefa’ is abstinence from all sins. Added to this they should just correct
their niyyah or intention in all that they are doing as routine housework. Make
the intention of pleasing Allah Ta’ala, then that same housework becomes Ibaadah.
In this simple way, they will easily secure great rewards and the same spiritual
stages, if not higher.
Similarly, the sawaab for the sabr (patience) a man exercises over his wife’s
shortcomings, emotional outbursts or mood swings is a medium by which he too
acquires great rewards and reaches Allah Ta’ala very, very quickly.
Many Auliyaa Allah reached great spiritual heights, and were accepted for
tremendous service to Deen on the patience they adopted with their wives, and on
the love, care, affection, tenderness and generosity they also extended to their
wives.
Rasulullah (Sallallaahu ‘alayhi waSallam) set the perfect example for husbands.
Despite the tremendous responsibilities that he was entrusted with, he gave due
attention and time to his wives and treated them with love and generosity. He
was never harsh or insensitive towards any single wife.
Rasulullah (Sallallaahu ‘alayhi waSallam) also said: “The best amongst the
Believers is he is whose character is the best. And the best among you is the
one who is best towards his wife.”
[1] Auliya Allah : Friends of Allah Ta’ala
[2] Wazeefas : additional, optional supplications