Perspective glance on daily
life
PREFACE
'24 Hours or Just a Day' is completely about perspective as it matters not what
is in front of you but the thing that does matter is how you look at it. If a
person is lacking sense of responsibility then we don't curse the duty but we do
look at the way one is approaching to it. Most probably we can say that it is
easy to live a determined life instead of wandering everywhere. Everybody
notices that things go on happening before us and we sometimes act in desired
way or sometimes in a distracted way. Do we ever think outside the box? That why
things happen? Why situations are created? Why we have to face everything
perfectly? Can't we spend a care-free life?
If you are the one who have such questions in mind then you are unique, and
you've been chosen for some good things. I personally believe that mostly people
do not pay attention to events happening around them. May be they think that
they are surrounded by a lot of problems and thinking differently will affect
their strategy which in fact is not at all worth noticing and could be overcome
even by giving just 10-15 minutes daily to yourself.
ACKNOLEDGEMENT
I am Muhammad Azeem Uddin S/O Faheem Uddin from Karachi, Pakistan. Pakistan is
something very precious to me, so I thought to do something as Pakistani. I
merely acknowledge that if this book gets success then credit only goes to Allah
Subhan-u-Wata-Aala and should be called a Pakistani thing but if due to lack of
my experience the book fails to describe its goal then all fault is mine and my
country should not be blamed.
Such an exciting topic came into my mind whilst hanging out with friends in a
garden. Basically I am not familiar with most of the books but still I think
that I can do something good. All friends encouraged me in doing such a unique
thing; unique in sense that none of my circle is related to literature field. As
I thought to write a book on such a subject that is ignored by most of the
people basically I was thinking to give a point of view that why it is necessary
to notice all these things. Describing the main point in beginning would be a so
much hectic start for my book, so I decided to explain all things and then
leaving the rest to the reader.
Hoping the best from Allah Almighty.
SELF
ACCUSATION
We admit it or not still we are born for someone or something special. Whenever
I think about relationships I first think that why there is connection between
people as according to me there should exist a reason for this connection. For
instance, a mother is for a child, a husband is for a wife, a brother is for a
sister, etc. All these people are associated with duties of others. Events took
place around us every day and all the details are stored in our memory. A
fascinating thing about our memory is that whenever any particular event is
stored then our mind wants to recall it again and again that's why we all always
want to share the moments we see, to our dear ones. Sometimes it gets very
useful if we share our matters with our close mates that they may suggest
solutions for our problems or they may guide us preventing from going to astray.
It is indeed very important that how you select your friends or in some part how
you classify them. Classification is based on understanding like some friends
are too much close to us that they even know our private things which we haven't
shared with anyone else. Similarly there are some matters in life that can be
shared with anyone even strangers but some events are so much confidential that
they should not be disclosed, even by us. It is necessary that the level of
understanding between you and your person should coincide because that may
result in future misunderstandings. In other sense, if there is a type of matter
you share with them then they should also be pleased in sharing such type of
their matters. I know it sounds mean but it actually it isn't. It is important
for a long lasting relationship. Another point that I want to tell is that, we
should never assume a relation. So many such situations arose in our lives that
we become too close to someone that they acknowledge us as a physical relative.
That is wonderful feeling when someone says such nice things to you but what you
have to do is to behave naturally because whenever someone says they you are
close to them then they start hoping things from you. They will expect true
relationship affection from you. But at that time if you don't act naturally
then it would become so much puzzling for you to overcome their expectations. I
am not suggesting to be rude with them but to give them respect.
We usually meet a lot of new faces at random places. Do we ever think that why
all the people we meet are not our friends? Or how our friends were just faces
at the time we first met them? Science discoveries prove that whenever we see a
new person, the first thing we do is to make eye contact with them and judge
from our eyes. What does it mean to judge from eyes? It is very interesting
thing that everyone wants to know about it. Our eyes are also a communicative
part of body. Eyes can tell the nature of a person as well as his/her present
mood. In reality there is no practice or training for reading these eye signals.
Even an ordinary person can read eyes or we can say ordinary person always does
this whilst meeting a new person. So the understanding is developed at the time
we first see the person. Now we can clearly say that how we classify all people
we see. Many of them are rejected in the beginning because our mind fails to
build chemistry with them. And some are withdrawn as a result of their bad
deeds. Only the people who are exactly of one's type continue to be in a bond.
It not only sounds but it actually is the psyche of man that he cannot always
live in isolation and he always want to meet with other people. But the problem
for now is that we all are too much busy in our daily chaos. We don't have time
for other people even not for ourselves. I also feel this particular problem but
when I thoroughly thought about this then I came up with the result that, what
we call the problem is not actually a problem and what we call work is not
actually that much as we think. We, on our own keep ourselves busy. If we take
example of the life of people living few centuries ago then we observe that they
did 10 times more work than we do, also the works they used to do were pretty
much difficult than ours but they had got hours for their families, relatives as
well as for themselves. Why our time got out of our reach? Why don't we feel
free?
We have to change ourselves. As I quoted before in the preface that even 10-15
minutes will definitely play a vital role in changing of our thinking. What we
have to do in that minutes can understood easily by start thinking from your
circle of relatives. Just sit on a calm place and make sure nobody disturbs you.
Make a rough list in your mind of people who are your life from your friends to
the cousins, then figure out the ones who are not so close to you and predict
the reason for this distortion. Once you have found the reasons which make you
far from a person then separate out the ones who are close to you. Our friends
become close friends usually because of a good deed by them or by us. So it's
necessary to sort out the things that led the friends to win each other's
hearts, and the causes that make spaces in both hearts. So I was talking that we
always need someone with whom we can share our happenings.
PREAMBLE
CIRCUMSTANCES
All the events that are related to you must not be disclosed. If you share your
secrets with someone that is not always helpful because if you have not paid
attention while making friends then you easily get lose. As I mentioned before
that not all people we know are our well-wishers. Negative part of sharing your
information with other people is that when they come to know your secrets then
they can easily misuse your information. They may tell those things to someone
else to whom you don't want to disclose such stuff. They can also misguide you
as if they were not really your close friend so they will be pleased in giving
you loss. Now it becomes clear that firstly it is so much important to examine
closely the people you want to be related with and secondly you should think
thoroughly before sharing anything or disclosing any secret to anyone. Whatever
the conditions may be but even so close relatives can also differ from us at
some point. If you are talking with someone about any third person who is absent
from conversation then you can easily be fooled by the person you're talking
with, as you continuously think that they are your well-wisher whilst sharing
your views but they may be taking information for some bad purpose. They can
misguide our relatives and friends regarding us for any false stories.
A genius has quoted absolutely correct that,
If you can't keep your secrets then
Don’t expect others to keep yours.
So it becomes much clear that again and again visualizing of character is
necessary while you make friends. Visualizing of character is actually also the
part of our sixth sense. In brief I can say that, based on your personal
observation till then; you can mentally design a situation and put the person in
it. If your observations come up with a green signal then the person can be your
friend easily. The quote that I mentioned just, not basically means that you
shouldn't tell your secrets to others but it strongly means that the choice of
secret-sharing mate should be done thoroughly. Ideal mate for expressing secrets
is one who put your ease and happiness above all priorities or maybe we can say
that they should keep feeling of sympathy for you hoping that you would feel
fine after sharing your stuff instead of trying to just get your information.
The secret behind success of many famous celebrities is that, they are expert in
distinguishing the people who can be beneficial for them. That's why they don't
have to waste their time in waiting for the right moment and they just make a
decision and make everything in accordance with it. Sometimes a person can be
unlucky in all, he get unwanted friends and got fooled by them. That's actually
not a problem but problem arises when a person being already fooled thinks to
get rid of all mates or not to make more friends; as at this time one don't pay
attention to sixth sense and mate-making priorities instead he runs only on
emotions and grief.
STORY’S
INCEPTION
The readers like you must be thinking that whatever described till now doesn’t
make any sense with the topic of this book. But I assure you that you would be
fascinated to see the go-between the book title and the above mentioned words.
We many times say that, we are not doing anything at that particular time. Is it
possible that we aren’t doing anything? Actually we are doing something i.e.
wasting time. Although it sounds silly that wasting time is something to care
about but actually it isn’t. We generally don’t feel the importance of time. As
we waste our time so we waste our lives. We should realize that we’re never free
and we have lot of works to do and lot of goals to achieve. People are commonly
found saying that they have nothing more to do in their lives and everything
they try, they get failed. If we analyze the facts then we will come to know
that, this type of scenario happens because of definite reasons that is; if one
hasn’t rightly identified or set his aim or when we talk about struggle then if
one don’t fulfill certain requirements for that kind of goals or aims and the
person keeps on over-estimating his struggle and under-estimating the level of
difficulties.